How to Turn Up the Heat When Your Heart Grows Cold

Colin Smith

When the days get darker, the great temptation for us is to become half-hearted Christians, to follow Christ at a distance. Things are getting tougher out there, so you are tempted to keep your head down, keep your faith private, and keep your engagement at arm’s length.

It is hard to run fast when the wind is in your face. It is hard to make progress when you are swimming against the tide. When evil is on the rise, it is easy to become jaded. You begin to wonder, “What’s the point?” It is easy to feel that being all-in and sold-out for Jesus Christ just isn’t worth it. You can remember better days when you were on fire for the Lord, but now a kind of lethargy has crept over your soul and you no longer feel as you once felt.

You’re in a funk. What are you going to do about it?

Romans 12:11 gives us this command:

Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit.

To be “slothful in zeal” is to be lethargic, low energy, jaded, run-down, weary, and apathetic. God commands us: “Don’t be in a funk!” To be “fervent in spirit” is the opposite. The word “fervent” raises the issue of spiritual temperature; it literally means “on the boil.” Heat is involved here. To be fervent is to be passionate, engaged, committed, active, energetic, and motivated. Don’t be in a funk, but keep yourself “on the boil,” serving the Lord.

Unless heat is applied, the natural tendency of things is that they grow cold. If your meal sits too long on the table, you put it in the microwave because it has grown cold. But how do you apply heat to your life? When you see that you are growing cold, you have to take responsibility for your own spiritual condition. You are in Christ, and the Holy Spirit lives within you. That means you are not helpless!

3 Truths That Can Renew Your Spiritual Passion

There are certain truths that, when applied rightly to your condition, will rouse your soul when you are in a funk. They will restore your spiritual fervor and help you to get yourself back “on the boil.” Here are the three R’s that can renew your spiritual passion.

Christ Redeems

When you are run-down and your soul is sluggish, the place to begin is to take in a good dose of what God has done for you in Christ.

Here is how this happened in my own life not so long ago. I was in a place where I was tired. I had experienced various discouragements and was feeling sorry for myself. I had lost energy and motivation. I was in a funk! I remember thinking, “This is no good. How am I going to shake myself out of this?”

It is often helpful at times like these to ask, “How does the Bible speak to what I am experiencing right now?” My mind went to a phrase in Galatians 6:9, where Paul speaks about being “weary of doing good” or “weary in well doing” (KJV). I knew that Martyn Lloyd Jones had preached a sermon on this verse. When I found it in a YouTube™ video1, God used that to shake me out of the funk I was in. Lloyd says:

If I ever find myself, even for a fraction of a second, doubting the greatness and the glory and the wonder and the nobility of this walk in which I am engaged, well then I’m spitting upon [Christ].2

This was like a splash of cold water on my face to waken me from the state I was in. Spitting on Christ! How could I do that? He has brought me into a redeemed life in which I am forgiven for all my sin, lovingly adopted into the family of God, indwelt by the Holy Spirit, and destined for a life of everlasting joy. Remembering this has helped me to not be slothful in zeal but fervent in spirit, serving the Lord.

Christ Restores

In Psalm 23, verses 1 and 3, David says, “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want… He restores my soul.” Christ died to save His people and He lives to keep His people. And because we grow cold, keeping us means often restoring our souls. Aren’t you glad that you can trust Him to do this? He may do it through a sermon in which you know that He is speaking to you. He may do it through the visit and kindness of a friend. He can even do it through a YouTube™ video that hits you between the eyes! But whatever the means, it is the Lord who restores your soul.

Satan wants to keep you in a funk, so he will do anything in his power to keep you from drawing near to God. Satan will put into your mind this argument: “Your heart is cold. You are not in a good place to come to God. You can’t come to God in a state like this! Come to Him when you feel better.” This is the enemy’s great argument, and he uses it time and again to keep jaded, discouraged, and lethargic Christians away from the one place where they will find help and relief. When this line of thought flashes across your mind, you need to be ready with this response: come to Christ as you are. Come, not because you have a warm heart, but in order to get a warm heart.

Christ does not say, “Get yourself ‘back on the boil’ and then come to me.” He says, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28). He is your Shepherd. He leads and feeds you, and when you are lacking in zeal, He is able to restore your soul.

Christ Reigns

When you think of the work you have to do, do you believe that God has called you to it? When you see that your work is for the Lord (Col. 3:23), it will give new meaning to whatever you do. However difficult it may be, in doing it you are serving Him. Other people may (or may not) appreciate what you do. They may (or may not) reward you for what you do. But if you keep in mind that you are serving the risen, sovereign Lord Jesus, it will help you to not be slothful or lacking in zeal, but to be fervent because you are serving Him.

It is really hard for soldiers to follow a general if they feel in their hearts that his campaign will end in failure. The good news for jaded followers of Jesus is that we know He wins! The grave was not the end for Jesus, and it will not be the end for us. Evil did not overcome Him, and by His grace, evil will not overcome us.

Christ redeems, Christ restores, and Christ reigns. Therefore, brothers and sisters in Christ, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that, in the Lord, your labor is not in vain (1 Cor. 15:58). So, don’t be in a funk! Stay “on the boil”, serving the Lord with a warm heart when the days are cold and dark.

This article is adapted from Pastor Colin’s sermon, “Overcoming Evil With Zeal”, from his series, Overcoming Evil.

1. Marc Bocanegra, “Gospel-rooted Christian Joy: Martyn Lloyd Jones – Weary in Well Doing (Part 2 of 4),” YouTube Video, 3:45, January 3, 2012, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEZMthbA0Jc.
2. Marc Bocanegra, “Gospel-rooted Christian Joy.”

Posted at: https://unlockingthebible.org/2020/06/turn-up-heat-heart-grows-cold/

When Our Own Understanding Fails

Madelyn Canada

It doesn’t make sense.

I don’t understand why people kill other people out of anger. I don’t understand why an invisible virus can both take and destroy lives with the fierceness of a great army. I don’t understand why people we love get cancer. I don’t understand why the dearest of friends are pitted against each other with the simple click of a share button. I don’t understand why sometimes doing the right thing can cost so much. I don’t understand how all of this can still be used for our good and God’s glory.

But I wanted to understand. I needed to understand.

And that desperation to understand how and why God can bring good for His children out of such loss and heartache is what made reading Psalm 131 so uncomfortable a few weeks ago.

The Psalm opens with these words: “O LORD, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things to great and too marvelous for me.” (Psalm 131:1 ESV) I had only to read one verse to feel, as a dear older sister in the Lord would say, “my toes getting stepped on.”

I started to rationalize and convince myself that the things this Psalmist was writing about, were not the things I was struggling with wanting to understand. The things mentioned as being “too great and too marvelous for me” were not the things found all over the pages of my journal in recent weeks. No, this was a good Psalm, but not one meant to convict me. This was one for them.

But as I kept reading, I suddenly wasn’t so sure. The Psalm continues with this: “But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child is my soul within me. O Israel, hope in the LORD, from this time forth and forevermore.” (Psalm 131:2-3 ESV) Calm and quiet? I wanted that. I longed for that. But my soul was the farthest thing from it. Perhaps, after all, my heart was not like that of the Psalmist’s in verse one. Perhaps, I was occupied with things too great and too marvelous for me. Perhaps, my heart was lifted up and my eyes raised too high.

A heart not lifted up…

My eyes wandered from the Psalm down to the study notes below. My commentary suggests that the opening of the Psalm, which speaks of a “heart not lifted up” and “eyes not raised too high,” is a description of humble man or woman’s attitude toward God. To have ones heart lifted up and eyes raised high is an expression of pride and arrogance, to demand or expect something from God which He does not owe us.

To “occupy oneself with things too great and too marvelous” is to try and understand things which are humanly impossible to understand. A finite mind simply cannot comprehend all the doings and workings of an infinite Being. It just doesn’t work that way, and a humble man or woman would not shy away from admitting that.

All of these things form a posture of humility from which the Psalmist writes a very short, three verse chapter filled to the brim with hope for the ones who just don’t understand. In order to grasp that hope though, we, the questioning, must be “humble under the mighty hand of God.”

This is why reading Psalm 131 initially discomforted me more than comforted me. I was reading it with a great deal of pride welling up in my heart. I demanded to understand things that God did not owe me answers for. I refused to trust Him and “lean not on my own understanding.” I ignored the reality that He is God and I am not, that His ways are higher than mine.

A prideful heart cannot be comforted with a peace that passes understanding, because it demands to understand unsearchable things. It is the humble heart, the one that waits quietly on the Lord and trusts in His unfailing promise keeping, that is clothed in peace. Simply to be held fast by the One who knows all the answers is enough for them.

Peace does not dwell in outward things, but in the heart prepared to wait trustfully and quietly on Him who has all things safely in His hands.

Elisabeth Elliot

Oh Lord, give us humble hearts that spring forth hope.

Peace when we don’t understand…

We have to stop spending all our time trying to understand all of the “hows” and “whys” and spend more of it getting to know the Who behind them. We can spend our days searching for answers to try and make sense of a broken world, or we can spend them seeking to know better the One who can (and will!) save us from it. The answers our prideful hearts demand will not calm nor quiet our souls like the love and nearness of our Lord will.

Sometimes, God gives us the answers we search the ends of the earth for. Sometimes, He doesn’t and instead He gives us a deeper knowledge of who He is that enables us to trust Him to carry those answers for us. The too great and too marvelous things are safe in His steadfast, unfailing, all-wise hands.

I don’t understand a lot of things. Some mornings I still wake up with a defensive spirit and an arrogant heart, but then I recall the words of Psalm 131, and rather than praying for immediate answers, I pray for a soul like that of the Psalmist. A heart not lifted up. Eyes not raised too high. A mind not occupied with things too great and too marvelous for me. A calm and quieted soul. Hope in the Lord now and forevermore.

Then I remember that God has promised to work all things for the good of those who love Him and the glory of His name. He keeps His promises, whether I understand how He does it or not. His ability to keep His word and bring His perfect plans to pass are not dependent on our understanding of how He will do it. Praise Him.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

Proverbs 3:5 ESV

I still don’t understand a lot of things, which is why if I leaned on my own understanding, it would fail me. But I know the One who understands all, and it’s on Him that I lean when life doesn’t make sense. I can say with the Psalmist that I have calmed and quieted my soul. And He will always be enough. It is from the humble heart that hope springs forth.

Oh Lord, give us humble hearts.

Posted at: https://thecornershelf.com/2020/06/10/when-our-own-understanding-fails/

Blessed are the Meek

by Tim Challies

The Beatitudes of Jesus are meant to shock us in the ways they so consistently counter our instincts and interrupt our inclinations. They commend the meek rather than the assertive; they commend the poor in spirit rather than the self-sufficient; they commend the reproached rather than the praised. The Beatitudes highlight some of the counter-cultural, Spirit-given qualities that God so values in his people.

If Jesus were to add just one more beatitude, perhaps it would be this: Blessed are the weak, for they shall have God’s strength. Though the exact words are not found in Scripture, they communicate a biblical emphasis: those who are weak specially experience the strength of God. For as the Lord said to the Apostle Paul, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” And as Paul declared, “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. … For when I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).

“When I am weak, then I am strong.” This is a truth we often see illustrated in common life. A little brother is exhausted at the end of the race, so his big brother lends him his strength—he takes hold of him and carries him to the finish line. A father completes marathons and triathlons with his disabled son, carrying him, pushing him, pulling him, for the young man says that when he competes he doesn’t feel his disability. A group of friends help their wheelchair-bound classmate make a basket, cheering and celebrating his accomplishment.

The heart of a brother, the heart of father, the heart of a friend goes out to those who are afflicted, those who are pitiable, those who have no strength of their own. In this way their weakness is their strength, for it draws the assistance of others. Their weakness is the very quality that makes them strong, for it compels others to rally to their cause, to lend them their abilities, their power, their vigor, their help. Weakness is the secret of their strength.

Paul’s lack of self-sufficiency was the very reason God exercised such great strength on his behalf.

And just so, God rallies to the cause of those who are weak. Though Paul had prayed that God would remove his “thorn,” he was content to live with it for he knew it made him an object of God’s pity and, therefore, God’s strength. His weakness made him stronger, for because of his weakness God put his arm around his shoulder, God pushed, pulled, and carried him to the finish line, God helped him accomplish what he could not accomplish on his own. Paul’s lack of self-sufficiency was the very reason God exercised such great strength on his behalf.

It is embedded deep within our depraved nature to regard weakness as misfortune, feebleness as failure, lack of physical strength as lack of divine favor. But nothing could be further from the truth, for weakness draws the eye of God, the heart of God, the strength of God. Therefore, with confident expectation do we receive our illnesses, submit in our sorrows, bow to God in our suffering. Rightly do we say, “Blessed are the weak, for they shall have God’s strength!” If there is any secret to our strength, it lies in our weakness.

Inspired by A Life of Character by J.R. Miller

Posted at: https://www.challies.com/articles/blessed-are-the-weak/

Be Focused on Others

by Cameron Buettel

The following blog post was originally published on September 6, 2016. —ed.

Contentment is always elusive when it’s based upon the pursuit of personal happiness. While the world encourages us to prioritize our own felt needs, realize our dreams, and strive for personal success and satisfaction, there is no lasting contentment in such selfish pursuits.

As John MacArthur explains, that kind of widespread navel-gazing takes a heavy toll on society.

Selfishness is a consuming and destructive sin. The first and inevitable casualty is the person who manifests it, even if no one else is harmed. Because this sin, like every other, begins in a sinful heart, anyone can commit it—regardless of whether there is an opportunity for it to be outwardly expressed. Even when not outwardly manifested, selfishness breeds anger, resentment, and jealousy. . . .

It is an immeasurable tragedy that modern culture (including much of the church) has, largely through the influence of secular psychology, rejected the divinely commanded principles of humility and selflessness. When the supreme virtue is self-love and the supreme purpose in life is self-fulfillment, mutual respect is replaced by disrespect, mutual service by apathy and indifference, and mutual love by enmity and hatred. [1]

Christians must not succumb to such a selfish lifestyle, and the other sinful attitudes it breeds. That’s why the apostle Paul points our focus away from ourselves.

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. (Philippians 2:3–8)

Paul’s life is a testimony to the fact that lasting contentedness is a product of cultivating a selfless concern for others. Later in his epistle to the Philippians, when he told them he had learned the secret of contentment (Philippians 4:10–12), his selflessness was a central component.

In fact, it’s why he commended the Philippians for emulating his outward focus when they emptied their shallow pockets to meet his own pressing physical needs. Paul rejoiced not only in the blessing that their support was to him, but even more so in the knowledge that the Philippian believers were also reaping the rewards of selflessness.

Nevertheless, you have done well to share with me in my affliction. And you yourselves also know, Philippians, that at the first preaching of the gospel, after I departed from Macedonia, no church shared with me in the matter of giving and receiving but you alone; for even in Thessalonica you sent a gift more than once for my needs. Not that I seek the gift itself, but I seek for the profit which increases to your account. But I have received everything in full, and have an abundance; I am amply supplied, having received from Epaphroditus what you have sent, a fragrant aroma, an acceptable sacrifice, well-pleasing to God. And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:14–19)

Pay particular attention to verse seventeen which affirms where Paul’s greatest joy lay: “Not that I seek the gift itself, but I seek for the profit which increases to your account.” John MacArthur says that Paul,

Was more interested in their spiritual benefit than his material gain. Being comfortable, well fed, and satisfied weren’t Paul’s main concerns in life. Rather, he was interested in accruing eternal dividends to the lives of the people he loved. . . .

Paul described the gift he had received as “a fragrant aroma, an acceptable sacrifice, well-pleasing to God” (Philippians 4:18). He was using Old Testament imagery to say, “Not only did you give it to me, but you also gave it to God.” . . . His joy came not because he finally received what he had been wanting . . . but because the Philippians had given him something that honored God and would accrue to their spiritual benefit. [2]

“Spiritual benefit[s]” and “eternal dividends” are the greatest possible rewards we could receive. It’s what Jesus described when He told His disciples to “store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal” (Matthew 6:20). Those are undiminishing and irremovable benefits that no personal bank account could ever guarantee.

Unfortunately, eternal rewards often don’t excite us like they should when temporal needs seem more pressing. But God isn’t ignorant of our immediate physical needs either. Paul closes his passage by reminding the Philippians that because of their selfless generosity, “My God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19). He assured them that God takes an active interest in caring for the physical needs of His people as well. It’s a liberating comfort to know that we can sacrificially care for others, secure in the knowledge that our sovereign God cares so much for us (Matthew 6:26).

Few would argue the value and virtue of selflessness. However, putting it into practice never comes naturally.

Although the meaning is obvious and easy to understand, it is difficult to apply. It is the practical outcome of the exceedingly difficult command to regard others as more important than ourselves.

Among other things, looking out for the interests of others requires believers to “rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep” (Romans 12:15), to continually “pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another,” to not “eat meat or . . . drink wine, or . . . do anything by which [a] brother stumbles” (Romans 14:1921), and to “bear the weaknesses of those without strength and not just please ourselves” (Romans 15:1). It is to “bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2). [3]

Paul understood that true contentment only comes through that kind of selflessness. For the sake of our own contentedness, as well as the benefit of the church and its testimony in the world, we need to cultivate that same kind of selfless concern for others.

Posted at: https://www.gty.org/library/blog/B160906

Abiding in Christ

John MacArthur

Our relationship to Christ is unlike anything else in the human realm. It can be described only by comparing it to relationships we are familiar with. It is like a deep friendship. It is like two people in love with each other, or like the love and respect shared by a father and son.

Scripture uses a number of metaphors to describe our relationship to Christ. He is the King and we are the subjects; He is the Shepherd and we are the sheep; He is the Head and we are the body. One of the best metaphors is the one Christ Himself used in John 15:1-11, where He is the Vine and we are the branches:

I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit. You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you. Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in Me, he is thrown away as a branch and dries up; and they gather them, and cast them into the fire and they are burned. If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples. Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father's commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full.

The vine-and-branches concept makes an ideal metaphor, because it is filled with parallels to our relationship with Christ. A branch grows through its connection with the vine, and we grow because of our relationship with Christ. A branch is nothing apart from the vine, and we can do nothing apart from Him. A branch draws strength from the vine, and we become strong through Him.

In the metaphor of John 15, Christ is the Vine and the Father is the vinedresser. He prunes the fruit bearing branches to make them bear more fruit. He removes the fruitless branches, and they are burned. Through continual pruning, the fruitfulness of the vine is increased. The branches that abide in the vine—those who are truly in Christ—are blessed, they grow and bear fruit, and the Father lovingly tends them. It is a beautiful picture of the Christian life, and it magnifies the blessings associated with abiding in Christ: salvation, fruitfulness, answered prayer, abundant life, full joy, and security.

Salvation

The branches that abide in the true Vine represent those who are truly saved. The others are not properly connected to the Vine. You have seen shrubs that have weeds growing in them. The weeds are intertwined with the branches of the shrubs and appear to be part of the same plant, but in reality they are attached to a different root. They are like people who have only a superficial relation to Christ.

Tragically, some people pretend to be Christians but have no real connection to Christ. They might regularly go to church or be involved in a Bible study. They might even talk about having a relationship with Jesus. But they aren't genuine branches in the Vine. Evangelical churches are filled with false branches. Some husbands come to church only because their wives want them to. Some young people come to church to be involved in a youth program, but they are not interested in knowing Christ personally. In fact, many outwardly spiritual people never go beyond mere association with Christians.

Jesus pleads with people who are superficial branches. He says in verse 4, "Abide in Me." He is saying to those who are like Judas, "Be genuine; abide in Me and show that your faith is real; bear fruit and remain on the vine." It is like saying, "You superficial branches: be saved; have a genuine relation to Christ."

Abiding in Christ is a mark of true salvation. Sometimes a person who is active in the church leaves suddenly and never goes back to church again. Or a leader in the church may become apostate. People in the church wonder what happened. The explanation is in 1 John 2:19 "They went out from us, but they were not really of us; for if they had been of us, they would have remained with us; but they went out, so that it would be shown that they all are not of us."

If a person's relationship to Christ is genuine, he remains. First John 2:24-25 says, "As for you, let that abide in you which you heard from the beginning. If what you heard from the beginning abides in you, you also will abide in the Son and in the Father. This is the promise which He Himself made to us: eternal life." Those who abide inherit eternal life.

That is not to say that you can be saved by being steadfast. The point is that if you continue in the faith, you are showing that your connection to Christ is real; if you depart, you demonstrate that it never was.

Paul made the same point in Colossians 1:22-23: "He has now reconciled you in His fleshly body through death, in order to present you before Him holy and blameless and beyond reproach—if indeed you continue in the faith firmly established and steadfast, and not moved away from the hope of the gospel that you have heard, which was proclaimed in all creation under heaven."

Hebrews 3:6 likewise says, "Christ was faithful as a Son over His house—whose house we are, if we hold fast our confidence and the boast of our hope firm until the end." By continuing in Christ we give evidence that we are really part of His household. Later, the same chapter says, "For we have become partakers of Christ, if we hold fast the beginning of our assurance firm until the end" (v. 14). A true believer has a living and vital relationship with Jesus Christ that cannot give way to unbelief or apostasy.

Only the person who abides in the true Vine can claim the promise of the constant presence of God. Jesus said, "Abide in Me, and I in you." That means if we truly abide in Him, He will truly abide in us.

Many people come to church thinking that God is with them just because they sit in the pew. But being in a church doesn't mean the Lord is with you. He doesn't live inside a church; He lives in His disciples. A person who sits among true disciples might be as far from Christ as the native of a tribe that has never heard the gospel—if he does not abide in the true Vine.

Jesus says in verse 9, "Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love." A real disciple doesn't come to Christ, receive His love, and then leave again; he remains. That is what Jesus is saying, whether He says "abide," bear much fruit," or "abide in My love." They all mean, "Be a real believer."

A Christian can abide only by being firmly grounded in Jesus. If a branch is to abide, it cannot be even half an inch away—it must be connected. Those who are saved are those who are abiding, and those who are not abiding are not saved.

Fruitfulness

Those who truly abide will bear fruit. Jesus tells us how in verse 4: "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me." The person who abides discovers that his soul is nourished with the truths of God as he stays in a close, living, energized relationship with Jesus Christ. The natural result of that is spiritual fruit.

Sometimes we think we can bear fruit alone. We become independent because we think we are strong or clever. Or sometimes we look at fruit we have borne in the past and think we can do it alone; we forget God worked through us to produce the fruit.

A branch can bear no fruit apart from the vine. Even strong branches can't bear fruit independent of the vine. The strongest branches, cut off from the vine, become as helpless as the weakest; the most beautiful are as helpless as the ugliest, and the best is as worthless as the worst.

Fruit-bearing is not a matter of being strong or weak, good or bad, brave or cowardly, clever or foolish, experienced or inexperienced. Whatever your gifts, accomplishments, or virtues, they cannot produce fruit if you are detached from Jesus Christ.

Christians who think they are bearing fruit apart from the Vine are only tying on artificial fruit. They run around grunting and groaning to produce fruit but accomplish nothing. Fruit is borne not by trying, but by abiding.

To bear genuine fruit, you must take your place on the Vine and get as close to Jesus as you can. Strip away all the things of the world. Put aside the sins that distract you and sap your energy. Put aside everything that robs you of a deep, personal, loving relationship with Jesus. Stay apart from sin and be in God's Word.

Having done all that, don't worry about bearing fruit. It is not your concern. The Vine will merely use you to bear fruit. Get close to Jesus Christ and His energy in you will bear fruit.

Some people find reading the Bible insipid and boring; they think sharing their faith is dull. Others find those things exciting. Invariably, the difference is that one is working on the deeds, and the other is concentrating on his relationship with Jesus Christ. Don't focus on the deeds; focus on your walk with Christ—the deed will grow naturally out of your relationship.

Fruit is a frequent metaphor in Scripture. The main word for it is used approximately a hundred times in the Old Testament and seventy times in the New Testament; it appears in twenty-four of the twenty-seven New Testament books. It is mentioned often, yet it is also often misunderstood.

Fruit is not outward success. Many think that if a ministry is big and involves a lot of people, it is fruitful. But a church or Bible study group isn't successful just because it has many people—fleshly effort can produce big numbers. Some missionaries might minister to few people but bear much fruit.

Fruit-bearing is not sensationalism. A person does not have a lot of fruit because he is enthusiastic or can make others enthusiastic about a church program. God produces real fruit in our lives when we abide.

The fruit of the Spirit is common to all of us, yet the Spirit uses each person differently. Fruit cannot be produced by simulating the genuine fruit another person has borne. It is tempting to see the fruit another person has produced and try to duplicate it. Instead of abiding, we try to produce what someone else has produced, but end up with only artificial fruit. God did not design us to produce the same kind of fruit. Our fruit is uniquely arranged, ordered, and designed.

Real fruit is, first of all, Christlike character. A believer who is like Christ bears fruit. That is what Paul meant in Galatians 5:22-23, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." Those were all characteristics of Christ.

Christlike character is not produced by self-effort. It grows naturally out of a relationship with Christ. We don't first try to be loving, and when we have become loving, try to be joyful, and so on. Instead, those qualities become part of our lives as we abide in Christ by staying close to Him.

Second, thankful praise to God is fruit. Hebrews 13:15 says, "Through Him then, letus continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of lips that give thanks to His name." When you praise God and thank Him for who He is and what He has done, you offer Him fruit.

Help to those in need is a third kind of fruit to God. The Philippian church gave Paul a gift; in Philippians 4:17 he told them he was glad for their sake that they had: "Not that I seek the gift itself, but I seek for the profit which increases to your account." He appreciated it not for the sake of the gift, but for the fruit in their lives.

In Romans 15:28, Paul wrote, "Therefore, when I have finished this, and I have put my seal on this fruit of theirs, I will go on by way of you to Spain." Again he referred to a gift as "fruit." In both cases, their gifts revealed their love, so Paul counted it as fruit. A gift to someone in need is fruit if it is offered from a loving heart, in the divine energy of the indwelling Christ.

Purity in conduct is another kind of spiritual fruit. Paul wanted Christians to be holy in their behavior. He wrote in Colossians 1:10, "that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God."

Converts are another type of fruit. Many New Testament passages show that converts are spiritual fruit. For example, in 1 Corinthians 16:15, Paul called the first converts in Achaia the "first fruits of Achaia." Like other spiritual fruit, success in winning converts is not accomplished by anxiously running around and participating in lots of "evangelistic activities"—it comes by abiding in the Vine. The way to be effective in leading people to Christ is not solely by being an aggressive witness; rather it is by abiding in Christ. Concentrate on your relationship to Jesus Christ and He will give you opportunities to share your faith. There is no need to become anxious because you have not yet won a certain number of people to Christ. As you become closer to Him and more like Him, you will discover that sharing your faith is a natural outgrowth of abiding. You may not always see fruit immediately, but fruit will be borne, nevertheless.

When Jesus was traveling to Samaria, He met a woman getting water. She told the people in her town about Jesus. As the people from the town came out to meet him, He said to the disciples,

Lift up your eyes, and look on the fields, that they are white for harvest. Already he who reaps is receiving wages, and is gathering fruit for life eternal; so that he who sows and he who reaps may rejoice together. For in this case the saying is true, "One sows, and another reaps." I sent you to reap that for which you have not labored; others have labored, and you have entered into their labor. (John 4:35-38)

The disciples were reaping the results of other people's labor. Those people did not see all the result of their labor, but their efforts still bore fruit.

William Carey spent thirty-five years in India before he saw one convert. Some people think he led a fruitless life. But almost every convert in India to this day is fruit on his branch, because he translated the whole New Testament into many different Indian dialects. He was not the one to reap directly what he had sown, but his life's legacy bore much fruit.

One of the most fulfilling experiences in life is to bear fruit for God. If it isn't happening in your life, the reason is simple—you are not abiding in the Vine.

Answered Prayer

God gives an incredible promise to those who abide: "If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you" (John 15:7).

Notice that there are two conditions to that promise. First, we must abide. The Greek word for "abide" is in the aorist tense; it indicates something that happened at one point in time and has permanent results. Again, it refers to salvation and indicates that the promise is only for real believers.

Of course, in His sovereign wisdom, God sometimes answers the prayers of a non-Christian; but He does not obligate Himself to do so. If He does, it is His sovereign choice and for His purpose; but He does not have to. The promise of answered prayer is reserved only for those who abide in the true Vine.

Still, many who are true branches do not always get answers to their prayers. It may be because they are not meeting Jesus' second condition, which is, "If my words abide in you."

"My words" doesn't mean only the individual words of Christ. Some people misuse red-letter Bibles because they regard the words of Jesus as more inspired or more important than the words of other writers of Scripture. But the words of Paul, Peter, John and Jude are just as important. The Lord Jesus Christ has spoken through all of Scripture; it is all His message to us. Therefore, when He says, "If My words abide in you," He means we must have such high regard for all of Scripture that we let it abide in us, that we hide it in our hearts, and that we commit ourselves to knowing and obeying it.

To meet the first condition, a person must be a Christian. To meet the second condition, he must study all of Scripture in order to govern his life by what Christ has revealed.

The same principle is found in John 14:14, "If you ask Me anything in My name, I will do it." Praying in His name is not merely adding "in Jesus' name" to the end of a prayer. It means praying for that which is consistent with the words and will of Christ.

The Christian who is abiding in Christ and controlled by His Word is not going to ask anything against God's will. Because he wants what God wants, he is guaranteed an answer to his prayer.

Our prayers often go unanswered because we pray selfishly. James 4:3 says, "You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures."

Our prayers will be answered if we follow Paul's example in 2 Corinthians 10:5, "We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ." We must rid our minds of everything that violates God's truth and will. When we think according to the will of God, we will pray according to the will of God and our prayers will be answered.

There is so little power in the prayers of the church today because we are not fully abiding and seeking His mind. Instead of bringing our minds into obedience to Christ and asking according to His will, we ask selfishly, so our prayers go unanswered. If we cultivated an intimate love relationship with Christ, we would desire what He desires; and we would ask and receive.

The psalmist said, "Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). That means that when you delight completely in the Lord, He implants the right desires in your heart. His desires become yours. What a blessing it is to know that God will answer every prayer we bring to Him!

Abundant Life

Abiding in Christ is the source of the abundant life Jesus spoke of in John 10:10. Those who abide fulfill the magnificent purpose of life, which is to give God the glory He deserves. Jesus said in verse 8, "My Father is glorified by this, that you bear much fruit." When a Christian abides, God can work through him to produce much fruit. Since God produces it, He is the one glorified.

Paul recognized the source of fruit in his life. He said in Romans 15:18, "For I will not presume to speak of anything except what Christ has accomplished through me." He did not tell people how good he was at preaching or evangelism. He recognized that everything worthwhile in his life came from God.

In Galatians 2:20 he said, "I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me." He knew God did it all.

Peter had the same idea in mind when he said in 1 Peter 2:12, "Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation."

So this is the logical progression: the one who abides bears fruit; God is glorified in the fruit because He is the One who deserves credit for it; the purpose of life is fulfilled because God is glorified; and thus the one who abides and glorifies God experiences abundant life.

Full Joy

One of the chief elements of the abundant life is fullness of joy, which is an outgrowth of abiding in the true Vine. Jesus says in verse 11, "These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full."

God wants us to be consumed with joy, but few Christians are. Churches have many people who are bitter, discontent, and complaining. Some people think the Christian life is monastic deprivation and drudgery—a bitter religious pill. But God has designed it for our joy. It is when we violate God's design that we lose our joy. If we abide fully, we will have full joy.

When David sinned, he no longer sensed the presence of God. He cried out in Psalm 51:12, "Restore to me the joy of Your salvation." He had allowed sin to hinder the pure abiding relationship. He did not lose his salvation, but he lost the joy of his salvation.

That joy returned when he confessed his sin and accepted the consequences of it. His guilt was removed; he returned to a pure, unhindered, abiding relationship; and his joy was made full again.

The joy of abiding in the true Vine is unaffected by external circumstances, persecution, or the disappointments of life. We can experience the same joy Jesus had. And His joy flows through those who abide in Him.

Security

Abiding in the true Vine brings the deepest kind of security. Romans 8:1 says, "Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." Those who are in Him cannot be removed, they cannot be cut off, and they need not fear judgment. There is no suggestion here that those who now abide might later cease to do so. Their position is secure.

On the other hand, those who do not abide will be judged. Jesus says in verse 6, "If anyone does not abide in Me, he is thrown away as a branch and dries up; and they gather them, and cast them into the fire and they are burned." He is referring to the Judas-branches, the false disciples. Since they have no living connection to Jesus Christ, they are cast out.

The true believer could never be thrown away. Jesus promises in John 6:37, "All that the Father gives Me will come to Me, and the one who comes to Me I will certainly not cast out." If a person is cast forth, it is because he was never a real disciple.

The branches that are cast off are gathered and burned. They burn forever and ever. It is a tragic picture of God's judgment.

The parable of the wheat and tares tells us that the angels of God gather those destined for judgment. Jesus says in Matthew 13:41-42, "The Son of Man will send forth His angels, and they will gather out of His kingdom all stumbling blocks, and those who commit lawlessness, and will cast them into the furnace of fire; in that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth."

There will be a day when God sends His angels to gather from around the world the Judas-branches who have no connection to Christ. He will cast them into eternal hell. It is tragic when a person appears to be a genuine branch but ends up in hell.

William Pope was a member of the MethodistChurch in England for most of his life. He made a pretense of knowing Christ and served in many capacities. His wife died a genuine believer.

Soon, however, he began to drift from Christ. He had companions who believed in the redemption of demons. He began going with them to the public house of prostitution. In time, he became a drunkard.

He admired Thomas Paine and would assemble with his friends on Sundays when they would confirm each other in their infidelity. They amused themselves by throwing the Bible on the floor and kicking it around.

Finally, he contracted tuberculosis. Someone visited him and told him of the great Redeemer. He said Pope could be saved from the punishment of his sins.

But Pope replied, "I have no contrition; I cannot repent. God will damn me! I know the day of grace is lost. God has said to such as me, 'I will laugh at your calamity, and mock when your fear cometh.' I have denied Him; my heart is hardened."

Then he cried, "Oh, the hell, the pain I feel! I have chosen my way. I have done the horrible damnable deed; I have crucified the Son of God afresh; I have counted the blood of the covenant an unholy thing! Oh that wicked and horrible thing of blaspheming the Holy Spirit, which I know that I have committed; I want nothing but hell! Come, oh devil and take me!"

Pope spent most of his life in the church, but his end was infinitely worse than his beginning. Every man has the same choice. You can abide in the Vine and receive all of God's blessings, or you can be burned.

It doesn't seem like a difficult choice, does it? Yet millions of people resist God's gift of salvation, preferring the superficial relationship of the false branch. Perhaps you know people like that—or perhaps you are like that yourself. If so, Jesus' plea to you is a loving invitation: "Abide in me, and I in you."

Posted at: https://www.gty.org/library/articles/P18/abiding-in-christ

Bearing the Fruit of Self-Control

by Paul Tautges

First Corinthians 9:24-27 is a fitting passage to consider when thinking about the fruit of the Spirit, which is self-control

Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.

The context of these verses is Paul’s teaching about the exercise of Christian liberty. Specifically, he calls us to choose love over liberty, which requires the exercise of self-control. The illustration he chooses comes from the ancient competitions of Paul’s day. In addition to the Olympics and two other major events, the Corinthians would gather in their coliseum to watch what was known as the Isthmian games. They were called this because the location of the games was on the narrow on which the city of Corinth was built. The Isthmian games were

…ancient Greek competitions that formed part of a religious festival for Poseidon, god of the sea….The Isthmian Games were founded in 581 B.C. They were held every other year on the Isthmus of Corinth…the competitions included boat, chariot, and foot races as well as boxing and wrestling…All winners received palm boughs and crowns of celery leaves as prizes.

World Book Encyclopedia

Therefore, these races and the training required to win provided a perfect illustration of the intensity that is required to succeed in the race of the Christian life. That is the setting for Paul’s exhortation to run with self-control, which comes near the end of Paul’s lengthy explanation as to why it is better for a Christian to choose love over liberty, when it comes to areas of difference of conviction.

Incentive to Run with Self-Control

Paul’s commitment to discipleship, and his compulsion to preach the gospel to the lost were incentives that led him to choose love above liberty. He could have been so enamored with his Christian liberties that he chose them over love and, in the end, lost the race of evangelism. Instead he chose the way of self-denial, which he knew would eventually lead to the ultimate victory in the race that he was running for God—doing all things for the sake of the gospel. 

Definition of Self-Control

Self-control is the discipline of mind, heart, and life that grows when we increasingly choose to die to self and live for Christ and others.

Three Admonitions

The development of the passage is as follows: it begins with the exhortation to run with self-control followed by three examples of self-control, and concludes with a warning about the end result of failing to exercise self-control.

  1. Listen to the present exhortation to self-control (v. 24).

  2. Learn from the past examples of self-control (25-27a)

  3. Look to the future examination of self-control (27b)

Success in the Christian life requires intense self-discipline and training. It’s the only way. If we are going to win the Christian race then we must ruthlessly lay aside the sin which so easily entangles us. We must take charge of our bodies and whip them into submission to the mind of Christ. We must, in the power of the Holy Spirit, grow in self-control by being governed by love, which includes habitually denying self, by living for Christ and others.

Watch this sermon.

Posted at: https://counselingoneanother.com/2020/06/08/bearing-the-fruit-of-self-control/

Angry?

BY: CLARENCE BOUWMAN

Angry? I’m not the type….right?

“Angry? No, not me.  I’m not an angry sort of person.”  Actually, I suspect very few of us think we are.  So allow me to share a story.

Bob had been gone for some days, and couldn’t wait to see his wife again.  On the ride home from the airport, he could already hear her enthusiastic hello, relish her eagerness to hear all about his experiences, and taste the tea and favorite bit of baking she’d prepared for him.

He hopped out of the car, dashed up the front steps, pushed open the door and hollered eagerly, “Lauren, I’m home!”

Silence.

He walked down the hall, looked around the corner, and there she was, ticking away on her laptop.  Enthusiastically: “Hi, Lauren!  I’m back!”  Response: a mild, “Oh, hi, Bob” and her fingers kept tapping the keys….

Response

You’re Bob.  How should Bob respond to this bucket of ice?  How would you?

  1. Bob could blow his stack and let Lauren know in no uncertain terms that this is no way to welcome your husband home.

  2. Bob could remain very calm, and admonish her that the Lord is not pleased with her coolness to his return.  (And, for the record, I’d argue there’s ample justification in the Bible that she ought indeed to welcome her husband with much greater enthusiasm.)

  3. Bob could turn his back, disappear into his man cave, and bury his head (and his pain) in his project.  “Be like that, then!  See if I care….”

  4. When a good buddy phones to welcome him back, he could let on that he feels badly hurt by his wife’s coldness.

  5. He could even suggest that his buddy try to get his wife to have a chat with Lauren and make clear that her behavior just isn’t acceptable.

Losing it, righteous instruction, sulking, slander, manipulation: which response is acceptable?  For that matter: is there a common denominator under all five?

Disclosure

I didn’t make the above story up.  I actually heard it at a conference hosted by the Christian Counseling Center. Robert Jones came up to Ontario from the Carolinas to talk about anger, and somewhere in his presentation he told this story. We were asked to consider where the problem was in relation to Bob. Was he justified in giving Lauren a piece of his mind?  Was he right to tell her what the Bible says about how she ought to welcome her husband? Was he justified in retreating within himself? Or in sharing his hurt with another, let alone gently manipulating another to set Lauren straight?

The thing is, of course, that each of us can relate quite well to every aspect of Bob’s response.  That’s because anger is much at home in the heart of every sinner.

Really?

I’ll admit that when I entered the doors of the conference building, I tended to define the term “anger” as a burst of outrage, be it slamming the door, pounding the table, shouting, and the like.  But our speaker made clear it that this was far too limited an understanding. The rage and the slamming and the pounding and the shouting are, in fact, expressions of an irritation rooted deep within the heart. That irritation is awakened by events (or words) that strike you as unfair or wrong or insensitive, etc. You can give expression to that irritation in various ways, be it blowing your stack or retreating within yourself, or slandering the perceived wrongdoer to your friend, or manipulating a third party to influence the wrongdoer, etc, and etc.

Anger is, biblically speaking, not first of all an action but is, instead, an attitude of the heart.  Some bump in the road, some irritation, will cause the anger inside to express itself in some particular action…including Bob’s various responses as outlined above. All are expressions of inner anger. And since inner anger is wrong, all these expressions of anger are wrong.

Jesus Christ

I was surprised to learn that the gospels record three incidents – yes, only three! – when Jesus became angry. That’s when Jesus healed the man with the shriveled arm (Mark 3:1-6), when He received the little children (Mark 10:13-16), and when He overturned the tables of the moneychangers in the temple (John 2:13-17).

We might expect Him, instead, to become angry when they sought to stone Him, or when they associated Him with Beelzebub, or when they ridiculed Him. We’d expect Him to be angry when He was arrested, mocked, spit upon, and crucified. But there’s nothing of the sort in His reactions. The Scriptures tell us that He went like a lamb to the slaughter.

As to the instances when He did become angry, in each instance God’s name was blasphemed through the hardness of human hearts, and that’s what triggered anger on Jesus’ part.  His anger, then, was in tune with God’s holiness and in step with God’s own anger against sin.  Never did the man Jesus become angry in response to feeling slighted or being sinned against.  That’s highly instructive, given that the child of God is meant to imitate Christ Jesus (cf Ephesians 5:1).

Bob

So where’s the wrong in Bob’s situation? Could Bob rightly point a finger at his wife and insist the wrong lay fully and only with her?  Could he plead that his response was a justifiable and righteous response to her failure?

Our speaker asked us to consider Mark 10:45:

“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Here is the driving thought behind Jesus’ conduct in life, and this is to be the driving thought in the lives of all His people.  The application for Bob? He let his thoughts on his way home be self-centered, and so he expected his wife to be there for him.  Since she didn’t satisfy his expectation, he became angry, and that anger received expression in, well, any of the options listed above.

Had Bob, on the other hand, approached home seeking not to be served but to serve his wife, he would have been in the right frame of mind to reach out to her and perhaps support her in some burden unknown to him. Such a mindset would reflect the Lord Jesus Christ.

Back to Christ

But, we protest, we can’t always give!

Our speaker did an excellent job of drawing out that we, in fact, have all we need in Jesus Christ.  He mentioned 2 Peter 1: “His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness” (vs 3), and asked us to contemplate the force of the word “all.”  In Christ we actually have all things that we require for this life! We say: but I need that kiss, that show of affection, that attention, that promotion, that….  And when we don’t get it we get annoyed, exasperated, frustrated, irritated – all expressions of anger….  In our anger is an implicit criticism of God; He’s not truly giving us what we need.

Paul responded differently.  He wrote his letter to the Philippians while he was imprisoned (perhaps in Rome). But from his cell he wrote: “Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content” (4:11). “In whatever situation”??  Yes, he says yes.  “I know how to be brought low and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need” (vs 12). What the secret is??  “I can do all things through him who strengthens me” (vs 13). So he tells the Philippians: “My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (vs 19).  Note the word “every need.”

Irritated at a slight? Upset at a knockback? Peeved because you didn’t get do what you thought you should? Livid at a demotion? Anger will never do, because Jesus Christ gives me all I really need.

The question is: do I believe that? Or do I, in fact, believe that I actually need people’s approval, because… well because the Lord, you know, actually disappoints….

Entitlement??

One little tangent before I sum it up….  The thought is alive and well in North American culture that we’re entitled to happiness, satisfaction, accolades, etc – and actually entitled to our own definition of happiness. Because North Americans are not getting what we think we deserve, we end up with more and more frustrated and angry people across our continent. But that has enormous – and very devastating – social consequences. Behind marriage failure is the anger (or irritation, or frustration, or mention whatever parallel word you would) that results from not getting what we think our spouse should give us.

But the Christian may not think in terms of entitlement. If anyone had an entitlement, it was the Lord Jesus Christ. But He did not cling to His divine glory, nor insist on what was His. He gave it all away, to redeem the undeserving. That’s the Christian’s example. As Jesus Christ did not come to be served but to serve, so the Christian does not think in terms of being served, but thinks in terms of how he can serve the other. That fight against selfishness will put a huge dent in the anger that stays too close to our hearts. And our culture needs guidance and encouragement in that fight. That’s the task (in part) of the Christian.

I’m grateful for the work done by Christian Counseling Center. It’s good to be reminded that anger (be it quiet or loud) is actually an ungodly response to what the Lord puts on our path. With the exception of “righteous anger” – where one is angry because God has been blasphemed – anger is in fact sin, and so it needs repentance and then resistance.

That will be ongoing work for us all.

Robert Jones’ book on the topic, entitled “Uprooting Anger,” published by P & R Publishing, is available in Christian bookstores or from Amazon. Rev. Clarence Bouwman is a pastor in the Smithville Canadian Reformed Church.

https://reformedperspective.ca/angry-im-not-the-type-right/

Above All These, Put on Love Part 13 (Loves Hope All Things and Endures All Things)

Love Hopes All Things and Endures All Things

By Wendy Wood

Love hopes all things.  The Greek is elpizō.  Hope means to wait with full confidence and joy.  A Christian lives a life of hope in the gospel of Christ.  A believer doesn’t cross their fingers or wish for an unsure future, but is rock solid in the guarantee of salvation by grace through faith in Jesus Christ.

Consider what the Bible says about HOPE!

1 Peter 1:3-4  “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead;  to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you,”.  We are born again to a living hope!  Our hope is living because our Savior is living.  Christ rose from the dead and ascended to be in heaven as our living advocate and mediator.  Our hope is alive and we know that we will live eternally in God’s presence because of this promise.  Our hope is imperishable - we can’t lose our salvation!  Our hope is undefiled - it cannot be tainted in any way!  Our hope is unfading - it is eternal!

Colossians 1:27  “To them God chose to make known how great among the Gentiles are the riches of the glory of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.”  Christ is our hope.  He indwells every believer.  We receive His power and His presence!  Our hope is in a real person who lived, died, and rose.

Colossians 1:23  “if indeed you continue in the faith, stable and steadfast, not shifting from the hope of the gospel that you heard, which has been proclaimed in all creation”.  The hope of the gospel is that it is the power of God to save and sanctify people for the Lord (Romans 1:16).  Our hope is in God’s power and His decisive will to save to the uttermost those who believe (Hebrews 7:25).

Hebrews 6:17-18  “So when God desired to show more convincingly to the heirs of the promise the unchangeable character of his purpose, he guaranteed it with an oath, so that by two unchangeable things, in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have fled for refuge might have strong encouragement to hold fast to the hope set before us.”  God does not change.  Our hope is secure because He will never change!  God swears by His own name.  There is no variation or shadow due to change in our God (James 1:17). He does not change so our hope is unwavering.

Hebrews 6:19  “We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain”.  Our hope is in Christ, who was our perfect substitutionary atonement, who opened the way for us to be in relationship with God.  The inner place behind the curtain was only for the high priest in the old testament who would make sacrifices once a year for the sins of the people.  When Christ died on the cross, the curtain in the temple was torn from top to bottom.  This is a picture of God now providing access to Himself through faith in the atoning work of Christ.  We are not dependent on a priest because Christ was the final High Priest whose sacrifice was once for all sins.

Romans 15:13   “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.”  God is the God of hope!  God confidently and joyfully knows the future.  God isn’t an angry person expecting doom.  God is directing all things to bring about His purpose and is 100% guaranteed that purpose will stand.  He fills believers with joy and peace so that by the Holy Spirit, which He gives us, we abound in hope too!

These are just a few of the many verses about our hope.  Hope is trusting God’s nature, His attributes, so that we live in a way that demonstrates how sure His promises are.  

So what does this have to do with “love hopes all things”?

Do your relationships reflect a hope that God is who He says He is, that Christ is all you need, and that your future is in heaven with God? 

Do your relationships show that you know eternity with God is your real home and that in this life you are an exile, sojourner, a mist that will vanish soon?

When we are not living in this hope, we tend to act like we need to make sure we get what we want now.  Oftentimes, our responses to others show we believe we have to be treated with respect to be happy.  Maybe we are tempted to be “right” and prove it because our hope is in justifying ourselves.  Maybe our dream of what life will be like is so important to us that we prioritize our job or financial security over God.  Maybe for you, it’s the picture of what a Christian family looks like that is where you place your hope and you will fret and stew with anxiety over a mistake or sin your child is involved in.

When “love hopes all things” we live with confident and joyful hope in God.  We trust His promises that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him (Hebrews 11:6)  and that giving up our desires now will lead to great reward (Mark 10:30).  If we truly place our hope in Christ, that relationship with Him is what will bring joy and peace and satisfaction, we won’t need to seek those things from other people.  We will be able to respond with love even when others do not.  Knowing that our hope is secure because it is in Christ, should change how we are in relationship with family, friends, church members, neighbors, and even enemies.

Where do you place your hope?  

Is your hope in having your circumstances change or is it in God?

Is your hope in having people around you change or is it in God’s promises?

Is your hope in being loved and respected by people or is your hope in what Christ has already made you to be?

Is your hope in your career, family, status, or possessions, or is your hope in heaven?

The way we interact with people shows where we are placing our hope.  Do you live in such a way that you display the greatness and surety of God’s promises?

Love endures all things.  Love perseveres.  You’ve studied the multi-faceted love God calls His children to live out.  Love endures all things means that there is never a time when these evidences of love should stop.  Love will continue to be patient and kind.  Love will continue to put aside arrogance and boasting and be humble.  Love will honor others ahead of self.  Love will continue to respond with grace and mercy when wronged.  Love will persevere in forgiveness even when sinned against repeatedly.  Love will grieve over sin and rejoice when God is honored.  Love will continue to cover over other minor sins and be gentle in correction.  Love will give charitable assumptions until it is wise to draw other conclusions based on evidence.  Love will place its hope in the only One who is secure and steadfast.   Love will endure because God has loved us this way!

Application:

  1. What did you learn about love in this section?

  2. Based on how you respond to your circumstance, where do you place your hope?

  3. Write your own summary of the hope we have in Christ.

  4. What scripture about hope do you need to meditate on and memorize?  Write it out and start working on it!

  5. What will it look like in your relationships to demonstrate your hope is in Christ?

Above all These, Put on Love Part 12 (Love Believes all Things)

Love Believes All Things

By Wendy Wood

Love believes all things.  Other translations say “love always trusts”.  This might sound a little crazy. Of course we shouldn’t believe everything we hear. We live in the era of “fake news” and people spouting conspiracy theories and saying whatever it takes to get attention. Proverbs 14:15 even warns us “The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps.”   We should consider what we hear and evaluate it closely.  Proverbs 18:15 says, “An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.”  This proverb tells us to acquire knowledge and to seek knowledge.  We need to consider whether information is true and right to be wise.  In the New Testament we are given the same instruction.  First Thessalonians 5:18 says, “Test everything, hold fast what is good.” Surely testing everything is not a gullible way to believe all things.  God expects us to engage our minds and consider, ponder, and test what is said and done.  We know scripture doesn’t contradict itself so deeper study is needed.  

The Greek for believes is pisteuō which means to “have confidence in”.  So what does Paul mean?  “I believe that he meant that if we are loving people, we will not allow suspicion, cynicism, or a judgmental, critical attitude to become a dominant feature in our relationships.  Love’s believing all things means that if we are living a life of love, we will put the best possible interpretation on what another person has done or said until we have the facts that prove to the contrary.  It means that if we do not have the cold hard facts that prove what the other person has done is evil, malicious, or unbiblical, we will always opt for the most favorable possibility.”*  Jerry bridges brings the definition of judgmentalism home in saying, “Most of us can slip into the sin of judgmentalism from time to time.  But there are those among us who practice it continually.  These people have what I call a critical spirit.  They look and find fault with everyone and everything.  Regardless of the topic of conversation - whether it is a person, church, an event, or anything - they end up speaking in a disparaging manner.”**  Love chooses to place the best possible light on a situation until there is proof of wrongdoing. 

One of the ways we fail to love this way is in making assumptions and judgments of other people’s motives.  When someone says something that hurts our feelings, we are quick to assume that they meant to be hurtful and therefore are unkind, mean people.  When someone does something that we think is inconsiderate of our feelings, we are quick to accuse them of selfishness and intentionally making our life harder.  “Love believes all things” tells us that this way of assuming and judging are sinful and definitely not loving.


Consider these scenarios:

  1. A woman you just met at a church event walks past you in Costco without saying ‘hello’.  Do you assume she is avoiding you and doesn’t want to be friends?  Or do you believe the best and think she just didn’t see you?

  2. Your husband forgets to stop for milk on the way home even though you called him an hour before he left work to remind him.  Do you accuse him of doing it out of selfishness or  to make your life more difficult?  Or do you believe that he just forgot and that there was no harm intended?

  3. A person in your life group is quieter than normal.  She says nothing is wrong.  Do you spend the evening wondering if she’s being honest and stew over what she might be upset about?  Or, do you believe her and pray for her?

  4. An extended family member forgets your birthday.  Do you feel hurt and upset that they don’t like you as much as they like the other members of your family?  Or do you give them the benefit of the doubt and believe they forgot and quickly move on to how you can love them well?

  5. Your 10 year old runs in from outside with dirt all over their shoes and tracks footprints all over the kitchen.  Do you get upset and assume your child did this to spite you and force you to clean again so you respond with anger?  Or, do you patiently explain the situation and ask them to think carefully about their cleanliness before running inside next time?


These are just a few situations when we tend to jump to negative judgments on the words and actions of others. Maybe your suspicions are rooted back to how you were treated in past (or current) relationships.  Someone may do something kind for you and you are quick to assume that they want something in return.  When love fails to believe all things, a nice compliment or a gift can’t just be an expression of appreciation, the giver must want you to reciprocate and so you can’t enjoy the gift.  Failing to love as Paul commands us is to live with a suspicion of other people’s motives.  Failing to love this way means you are the judge of other people’s hearts.  This is contrary to scripture.  Jeremiah 17:9 tells us our hearts are deceitful and we often do not even understand our own hearts, let alone other people’s hearts.  Psalm 139:23-24 tells us we need God to search our hearts and reveal the right way to go.  And Hebrew 4 tells us that it is the Word of God that discerns the thoughts and intentions of the heart.  That’s not our job and there’s no way we can do it correctly or accurately.  

Up to this point we’ve considered how you need to be loving in how you think about the words and actions of others toward you.  “Love believes all things” also applies to when you receive information about other people.  A loving person will believe the best of someone who is being gossipped about or slandered about until facts are obtained that would drive us to a different conclusion.  Proverbs 18:17 warns us about making snap decisions about others based only on a small amount of information.  “The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him.”  Love is not gullible.  Love doesn’t just believe every word that is said.  Love is wise in determining if what is said is true and right.  It is wise to not assume everything you hear, including negative information about other people, is right.  Give the person who is not even there to defend themselves the benefit of the doubt and think well of them.  In the face of indisputable facts, our conclusion may change, but don’t let judgmentalism be the default setting in your thinking.

* See “Maximum Impact” by Wayne Mack

**See “Respectable Sins” by Jerry Bridges

Application:

  1. What stood out to you about “love believes all things”?

  2. On a scale of 1 - 10, how big a problem is judgmentalism or a critical spirit for you?  Are you quick to assume bad motives or to believe the worst (10) or are you charitable and assume the best (1)?  why?

  3. Write out Philippians 4:8.  Next to each word that should describe our thinking, write a definition of what it means.  Then, write something about God that would fit each category.  How can this help you when tempted to think critically of others?

Above all These, Put on Love Part 12 (Love Bears all Things)

Love Bears All Things

By Wendy Wood

Love bears all things.  The Greek word for “bears” is stegō. Literally translated this means “roof”. Paul is saying that love protects and covers.  Wayne Mack is helpful in describing this. ‘According to the Greek dictionary, [1 Corinthians 13:7] can literally mean “to put a roof over what is displeasing in another person,” “to throw a cloak of silence over what is displeasing in another person,” “to pass over in silence or to keep confidential or to protect and preserve by covering.” “In other words, it means to cover over with silence, to keep secret, to hide or conceal the errors of faults of others. What Paul is saying in verse 7 is that when we tell someone, “I love you,” we are telling that person that we will function as an umbrella or roof that will shield and protect that person from harm or unnecessary and unhelpful exposure.”*

It will be helpful to look at other scriptures to get a really clear picture of what is meant by ‘love bears all things’.  When we read that description, we immediately want to jump to our own defense of confronting others when we are sinned against.  That “inner lawyer” in us that wants to defend ourselves reveals a self-justifying heart.  We need to pay attention to rising up in our hearts.  Our desire to self-justify is a rejection of Christ’s justification on our behalf.  When you feel that need to prove yourself right, take time to examine what’s really going on in your heart.  Why do you feel the need to prove yourself?  Is this a time to quiet your heart, ask God to make you teachable, seek to learn to discern truth from scripture, and rejoice that you can’t and won’t ever be able to justify yourself!

The Apostle Peter says something very similar in 1 Peter 4:8 - “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers over a multitude of sins”.  Similar to being long-suffering or patient, bearing with other people’s sin means we don’t have to point out every offense or wrongdoing.  We can endure graciously with the faults of others knowing that God has dealt graciously with our sin.  Real love covers over and protects other people from unnecessarily or unhelpful exposure of their sin.  By unnecessary and unhelpful exposure I mean that love doesn’t gossip or tell others who don’t need to know about the sin.  We’ll discuss this further in a moment.

Proverbs 17:9 says, “Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.

Proverbs 10:12 says, “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses”.

Love never enjoys exposing the sin of others.  Put yourself in the place of the sinner.  When you have done something wrong, do you want others who are not involved, who do not have your best interest in mind, or may not even know you, to hear about your sin?  Would you feel loved if your husband or friend told other people about how you sinned?  Of course not!  A loving relationship provides the safety of cover and a promise of concealment when sin happens.  Not because sin doesn’t matter, but because love is willing to overlook sin knowing that we are all sinners.  To love someone means that you will be a safe place for others to learn, make mistakes, and grow in becoming more like Christ.  

But the bible also tells us to confront sin at times. In fact, Paul confronted sin in the bible.  Paul was writing 1 Corinthians in response to the Corinthian church sinning in disunity, adultery, marriage issues and more. His letter pointed out their sin and called them to change their ways.  Jesus confronted sin also.  When talking with the woman at the well, Jesus asked her about her husbands and told her to “go and sin no more”.  Matthew 18:15 tells us “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.”   And, Galatians 6:1-2 says, “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.  Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”  Clearly there are times to confront sin and not “cover” it up.

First, when deciding if love should cover something up, assess whether or not what has happened is actually sin, or just a preference issue.  Sometimes, in our pride, we elevate what we want to have happen to the level of right.  Just because you don’t get what you want or are offended by something doesn’t necessarily mean that sin has occurred.  Take time to assess if God’s law has been broken, not just yours.  This may just be a time to humble yourself and accept other people’s differences.

Second, is this a one time offense or is this a pattern of sin in the other person’s life.  Galatians 6:1 uses the term “caught”.  “If anyone is caught in any transgression”.  Caught implies that someone is bound up in or unable to get free from something.  The Greek phrase of “is caught” pictures someone that is taken over by something.  So, when deciding if you should cover over a sin or confront it, it is important to assess the seriousness of the sin in the sinner’s life.  If the sin falls into a pattern of behavior that the sinner is unaware of or if the pattern of sin is harming their walk with God, it is time to confront the sin.  Everyone of us needs to be practicing sanctification with putting off old ways of living and putting on new, Christlike ways of living.  If exposing the sin to the sinner would help them to grow in godliness and holiness, it may be time to talk with them.  

Third, are you truly able to cover the sin and not let it affect your relationship with the person.  Covering a sin doesn’t ignore sin, but rather covering a sin acknowledges that God is grieved by this sin, you or someone else has been hurt by this sin, and is a choice to absorb the cost of the sin. If you cover over the sin, but allow then replay the sin in your mind or any way hold that sin against the other person, the sin has not been covered over.  The protection or roof concept of love means that the relationship stays safe and completely reconciled.  Jay Adams puts it this way:

“Covering sins means not allowing offenses to come between brothers.  It doesnot mean ignoring them.  God allows no grudges or resentment.  One must cover sins in such a way that they never bother him anymore.  If some sin keeps throwing the covers off, then you must confront the brother and bring the matter to a successful conclusion.  God does not allow for unreconciled relationships.  Nor does covering sins mean never offering help to another who is stuck in some trespass out of which he is not extricating himself.”**

Psalm 32:1 says, “Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.”  God covers our sin so completely that we do not need to fear that He holds it against us.  Covering sin means that it is no longer an issue.  If the offender has done something that you cannot truly cover over, it is better to have a conversation about the offense and bring the relationship to reconciliation.

When you believe that the sin must be confronted, attitude and motive are crucial.  The desired outcome is repentance.  First and foremost, we must desire to see the sinner repent to God and be drawn closer to Him.  We must desire that the sinner be exposed for their good in leading them to put off sin and put on living in a godly way.  Love seeks the good of the other person ahead of its own comfort or preference.  Selfish attitudes and motives must play no part in exposing the sins of others.  When you are sinned against and are about to expose the sin, consider these issues:

Am I about to confront this sin because it inconveniences me to sinned against in this way?

Am I about to confront this sin because I want to be proven right in this matter?

Am I about to confront this sin because I’ve been called out on the same sin and I don’t want to be the only one?

Am I about to confront this sin because I am angry at this person?

Am I about to confront this sin because it makes me feel better about my own sin?

The right motive to expose sin is to help the other person acknowledge and confess their sin to God.  To seek forgiveness and to turn from the sin to please and honor God in their thoughts, words, and actions.  It’s not about you.  It’s not about your life being easier if this sin stops.  Love for God and love for others is the only God pleasing motive when confronting the sin of others.

Galatians 6:1-2 also talks about keeping a watch on ourselves.  This is similar to the idea of examining and removing the log in our own eye before dealing with the speck in the other person’s eye.  Before talking about other people’s sin, we must deal with our own.  We must be living a lifestyle of repentance.  We need to be aware of our need for God’s grace and forgiveness and be deeply grateful for it.  We need to humble ourselves and see ourselves as fellow sinners and not approach the other person in a condescending way.  Starting with our own sin first makes us a credible voice in someone’s life.

We must approach someone else with a spirit of gentleness.  Another word for gentleness is meekness.  Jesus was “gentle and lowly of heart” (Matthew 11:28-30).  Meekness or gentleness is about being under God’s authority and submitting your will and desires to God’s.  It is also about being compassionate toward other people.  Gentleness is a heart attitude that overflows into our speech, body language, and actions.  A gentle heart is patient and kind.  A gentle heart is focused on being sensitive to other people’s feelings and needs.  Meekness involves seeking peace, a willingness to let go of preferences and yield to other people’s way.  

Consider these examples from Wayne Mack:

“Restoring in the spirit of gentleness means that we will:

  • Be sensitive to the feelings of others; be reluctant to do or say anything that would embarrass them.

  • Do what we can to make others feel at ease, gentle people don’t enjoy making people squirm.

  • Be willing to hear different ideas, even foolish ideas, without doing or saying anything that would belittle or demean someone else.

  • Treat people with respect and dignity even when we disagree with them or think they are wrong

  • Avoid unnecessary and unhelpful criticism

  • Avoid the use of intimidation, coerciveness, violence, manipulation, or authoritarianism

  • Use “soft answer” not harsh words (Proverbs 15:1-2)

  • Uses words that build up, fit the occasion, and give grace to those who hear (Ephesians 4:29)

  • Approach others with a servant attitude rather than as a master or lord.

  • Avoid talking to others about someone else’s sin unless to do so is absolutely necessary for knowing how to help the person stuck in sin

Love does not take pleasure in pointing out the sins of others.  Yet our sinful nature delights to report on the sins of others.  We see it in children who can’t wait to tattle on a sibling or report a fellow student to the teacher.  Yet we do the same thing when we try to hide our uncovering of sin (gossip) in the pretext of a prayer request or in getting help to deal with the situation when we don’t really want or need help but it just feels good to share the information.  Love doesn’t take pleasure in exposing sin so that you feel better about yourself.

Jay Adams explains what it looks like to restore someone in the spirit of gentleness:

“Meekness is difficult to define; it is more easily understood by describing its 

opposite  To say to a brother caught in sin, “Well, I guess this is to be expected.

 After all, how many times have I said…,” is to kick him when he is down.  No,

 any such superior attitude is the opposite of meekness.  Meekness acts more

 like this, “Brother, I am here, not because I consider myself better than you, but

 because in Galatians 6:1, God tells me to come.  As a matter of fact, I may need

 you to help me out of some difficulty in the future.”

Humility is key in knowing when to cover over sin or expose it.  Humility is key when we know we need to expose sin because how we do it is just as important as if we do it.  The only motive that honors God in confronting sin is to help bring the fellow sinner to repentance so that God receives glory as His power is on display in a changed life.  Proverbs 19:11 says,  “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense”.  Always ask yourself, can I overlook this offense.  Can I choose in love to absorb the cost of this sin and not say anything and treat this person like nothing has happened in our relationship?  Have I examined my own life for sin and am I humble about being a fellow sinner?  Is this a sin that needs to be confronted so the other person has the opportunity to repent and change?  Am I aiming to please myself or God in this confrontation?  Once those questions are answered rightly, then, and only then, should you proceed.

See “The Christian Counselor’s Commentary: Hebrews, James, 1 and 2 Peter” by Jay Adams

See “Maximum Impact” by Wayne Mack

Application:

  1. What were the two things that stood out to you the most in this facet of love?

  2. Rate yourself.  Are you careful to cover sin (1) or are you quick to expose others failures (10)?

  3. Who do you tend to be quick to confront and correct and what motive do you tend to have in doing so?

  4. Thinking through the people and situations you wrote in #3, which of these is it appropriate to cover over or bear?

  5. Still in regards to #3, what would it look like to confront these sins with humility and seeking to honor God and not self?